Holding On Hurts More Than Moving On

Although it’s never an easy task, I don’t know one person who will say that holding on to what is gone felt better than moving on to what’s next. When we get to the point where we can appreciate the past for where it has brought us, our world becomes open to new possibilities and experiences.

Why am I so happy? Because I’m moving in a new direction. Photo cred: Krissy Leigh Creative

Take a minute and think about something you’re now happy you have moved on from. This could be a job, a relationship, or even an apartment. During the time this thing was an active part of your life, you could never imagine it being gone. But now that you’re past it, think about everything you’ve learned, experiences you’ve gained, and new opportunities that have come your way. Now picture yourself still hung up on that thing. You’d be hurting and continually projecting a fantasy of how you want it to be. And that’s exactly what it was- a fantasy.

The reality is, no matter how many fake scenarios we dream up, life happens when we let go of what’s not meant to be.

There are always situations that take more time than we wish they would for God to show us why they had to happen. Why would we land a job if we were meant to take a completely different career path? Why would we fall in love with someone if they were going to break our heart? Why would we move to a new city and then end up going back to where we came from? These scenarios happen all too often and leave us wondering, trying to desperately uncover answers to the mysterious and unexplainable outcomes.

I still haven’t quite figured out the reasons for certain experiences in my life, but I’ve decided to start moving past those. I’ll figure out the “why” eventually.

There’s something unbelievably freeing about letting go of what you’ve been so desperately holding on to.

You can try and try again, but if God has another plan, he’ll always interfere, directing you down a different path. So what’s the point in fighting it? What’s the point in holding on? It really does hurt much more than moving on.